Hi Mommies & Friends! Welcome to my new blog, The Imperfectionist Mom! I’m going to keep this short because I already have my “about” page and a post to tell you more about who I am and why I started writing.
I wanted to tell you all how grateful I am that you are spending your valuable time to check out what I have learned since becoming a parent. I grew up never wanting children and that didn’t change until a year or so after I started dating my husband, Andy. Once baby fever hit, it wouldn’t go away. I was so excited to have my first child that I didn’t even begin to realize how difficult being a parent would be. I mean, really, I had never even babysat before. Needless to say, I had no idea what I was doing! Overwhelmed and exhausted, I relied on the advice of others and constant trial and error experiments.
Since those early days, a lot has changed. I have become a better mom and a better version of myself by learning that I matter, too. Regaining my individuality, nourishing my relationships and learning to adapt to my daughter’s individual needs has completely changed my life. It wasn’t until a few months ago that I was genuinely able to say that I love being a parent.
I remember in those first few months how many well-meaning people would ask me “Isn’t motherhood such a blessing?” and I always tried to kindly smile and say how lovely it was. To be honest with you though, the first 4 months of Lily’s life were the hardest 4 months of my own. I loved her and felt the unbelievable connection to her but between my postpartum health issues, Lily’s constant crying & my sleep deprivation, motherhood felt more like a full-time job that I didn’t apply for.
The more mommies I talk to, the more tell me how similar they felt during their child’s first year. I know people will judge me for saying parenthood isn’t all rainbows and butterflies, but I am just keeping it real. I want to let other mommies know that they are not alone and YES! hallelujah, Yes! It does get better. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and it will be calling you “mommy” before you know it.
I get asked all the time how I got through certain parts of Lily’s development and what products and techniques I use. I’ve been lucky enough to have experts in the reproductive and parenting field help guide me through pregnancy, birth, and motherhood. I’ve picked up a lot of knowledge and experience along the way that I would be selfish not to share!
So, please, come along with me. Interact. Tell me what you like and what you don’t like (promise I won’t be offended). I have never done anything like this before and I am awful with technology and social media. There will be a learning curve to be sure, but I am determined to get my message out there. Feel free to reach out and ask me to talk about something or suggest something I should try and share with my readers. Raising a child really does take a community and I think we can all grow by learning from one another.
So, again, welcome & I hope you enjoy! xoxo